Some people are so driven to be successful at their careers, vocations or hobbies they make a serious mistake. They do not pay attention to the one group that provides the most support, encouragement and acceptance—the family.
Any individual may have different goals or want to try other things, such as jobs. A lawyer may be tried of the paperwork and decides he wants to be a salesman. A salesman may want to be a mechanic. A journalist may want to go from newspaper reporting to public relations.
Sometimes these career choices are thrown upon you. There will be cases where you become tired of “the same-old grind” and will seek a change. In other cases, you may lose your job, and have to start a new career.
Your family is going to be your support group, and they cannot be ignored. The drive for success, the stress of changing careers and the uncertainty that comes with unemployment are major issues. They can make you want to devote your time to nothing else at the expense of your family.
However, whatever you decide should ultimately be for the benefit of the family. Just as important is that the family should be involved. have an obligation to tell your spouse everything about the situation. Next, depending on their ages, the children have to be told and assured that some things may change, but the family will always be together.
If the possibility of relocation appears to be a likely scenario, you have an obligation of telling your family that a move to another city or state may be possible. Children do not want to leave their friends. Explain how through technology, their ‘best friends forever,’ can still be their best friends.
Tell them about the possibility of starting a new adventure. There will be problems that will have to be addressed. Your oldest daughter may miss her prom. Your son may miss his chance as starting quarterback. Explain that you are doing everything to avoid those possibilities. However, some things are beyond our control. Promise to look at all options and to discuss the final decision with them.
You have an obligation to your family to discuss finances. Yes, you lost your job, but you got a severance package. You have money for such emergencies, but everyone is going to have to cut back. Those possibilities could include things like reducing the number of cable channels you subscribe to each month, changing your telephone plan, and that everyone has to be more conscious about turning off lights.
The buzzword in business has been and continues to be “networking” This is the process where you advance your career by meeting the right people that may offer new possibilities. Your goal is to support your family, but you do not have to do it alone. Your family will support you if you keep them involved. Tell them what is happening and the changes in lifestyle that may come gradually over time.
Your family is your core network that will provide encouragement and support, if you let them. They trust you as the provider. You now need to trust them as your support network.